Dating Advice on love, life and relationships
Should you pay for the first date?
When meeting a lady for the first time, there is often a dilema concerning whether it is in your best interest to pay for the date. The majority opinion is in favor of a guy always paying for the first date!
Chivalry is not dead, contrary to what you may think. Women sitll appreciate it! If you want to impress a woman, don’t let her pull out her wallet. She will probably not forget it, even though she extended the offer if you allow her to contribute!
Women like to feel that they are being respected. A guy holding the door open and paying for the date makes her feel that you are a true gentleman, even if just a perception. She will go home and tell all her friends how wonderful you seemed!
Dating can be expensive for men. So, a first meet does not have to mean dinner at Seasons 52. Plan a meet at a cafe or wine bar! They are both generally relaxing and fun places to make an introduction.
If you are short on cash, have just one glass of wine. However, you should ask your date if she would like another glass when she has finished. Order a glass of water with your wine and you can sip on that as well!
After you meet and scope out the visuals and see if she passes the chemistry test, you can decide if you want to move forward with a second date.
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Well, In my Opinion whoever has asked for the date should pay.
I appreciate your opinion but I do feel that the man should pay for the first date and most of the dates! Most men will also agree from the data I have read!
I think that men should pay also. Men want to feel like men and if you start offering to pay for everything they feel like they are not the man!! Let them pay!!
i approach a first meeting as if i am responsible for the expense. if the lady makes no gesture towards sharing the cost or perhaps the tip, i assume it is mine with no questions.
there are exceptions: i have met ladies who say upfront they would like to share the cost. i acknowledge, then wait to see if they offer afterwards. the initial gesture can sometimes change once you meet a person. i then accept her offer, gently suggesting that i would be happy handling the dinner (or major portion of the cost) if she would be comfortable with the tip or comparible.
i have also met ladies who have offered to pay some portion as the evening drasw to a close. again, i politely suggest i can handle the bulk if they are OK with that. that usually works for both parties and assures that if a second date is in the offing, the first date’s expenses dont get in the way…
my 2 cents !!!!!
after the first date??? i usually cover it. but like someone else here pointed out; it is reasonable that whomever set up the date covers most or al the expenses, unless the other person offers. in today’s world, i dont believe there is any longer the standing expectation that men should always pay the expense. in fact, i have sensed some irritation with some ladies who have actually questioned why i would always pay the bill. today, women want to carry their own load, chivalry not-withstanding….
my nickel’s worth this time……!
“The first date is an excellent time to discuss what you expect from a relationship, your religious beliefs, your morals and where you see your future.Two people on a different path are going to have a near impossible time forming a life, even if there is love.There is more to a relationship than love and passion.” I agree and you can find out about another person a lot in the first date, whether you’re connected or not, first date says it!
I totally agree with you Cameron! This is an informal setting where you can ask questions and get to know more about what your date is looking for and if you are on the same path. Just because you have chemistry does not mean that it will convert in a quality long term relationship!
so who pays for the first date folks?
Not Me!!:)
I had a date. I offered to pay and the guy made me pay. I feel disrespected, worthless, and humiliated. I only work part time and go to school. The guy is professionally stable. I don’t see why he told me that i can pay half of the bill if i want. Other guys just paid. I think I will never offer anything. I’ll be ok with the tip but not of the bill. Guys have to be gentleman. I’m very attractive women, nice and I like to do things on my side for a guy when i’m ready, and I’m content. I like a real man, chivalry is important. I’d rather be alone than go fuck with someone that has no respect to a women.
It’s very hard to find guys like our parents had. I wish i lived in that generation and not this current one, where i guy escapes responsibility and looses all the manly side. I’d rather use a deldo at this point, then a penis. Sorry guys