Antiquated Dating Ideas

There are so many schools of thought and techniques on dating out there today. Dating philosophies depend on several factors: The age of the person who is dating and also the times that we live in today.

This topic became most important to me this week since it was mentioned to me that my ideas are “antiquated”. So, in fairness to the person who pointed it out , but most certainly will not read this post, I am going to attempt to approach this subject with an open mind.

I have been attempting for the past several weeks to get feedback in an open forum regarding several dating topics such as “should a guy pay for the first date” and “why do guys play games”? It was a very enlightening experience and I learned quite a bit from it.

I found that many people in their 20’s prefer to split the date or refer to whoever suggested it as the payor. I feel that it is fair if it works for their generation. Also, I do realize that many people in their 20’s are in school and do not have a lot of money to date.

There definitely is a generational mindset difference and I do appreciate and respect that.  Dating is such a difficult topic to turn into and exact science and really boils down to several things: compatibility  and attraction.  Other criteria is secondary.

Most men in their late 30’s, 40s and beyond will reach for their wallet and not allow a lady to pay for the first date.  To me that is the real test. If they expect me to pay for the first date, it is the last. In more than 40 dates over the past almost 5 years, I have only had one date where the man expected us to share the check.  He was a recipe for disaster!

I can only extend my experiences, research, and values to my readers. It is up to you to decide if what I have to say has value and I do hope that it does and that it aids you in your search for a great relationship!