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Love and Dating Over 40
As you approach and soon thereafter pass the dreaded after 40 period, you will hopefully be entering the most exciting years of your life. Embracing such a great starting point for your “Renaissance” years should be exciting and fun!!
In our 20’s and 30’s, most of us are busy with school, careers and starting families. We don’t have a lot down time to really get in touch with what gives us the greatest pleasures.
As we move into the 2nd part of our lives, we normally discover that life can get even sweeter and more fulfilling because we have hopefully matured from past experiences and have so much to share.
The 40’s can become our greatest decade. Still young enough to hopefully embrace the activities we enjoy, but also old enough to know what we want!
Finding a partner to love or share fun times with can be somewhat challenging but also rewarding if we approach it the right way! People tend to be more mature in their forties, but do keep in mind that there is many times more baggage carried as well.
Women over 40 can face concerns that they didn’t really deal with when married, such as incontinence due to child birth, lack of sex drive and menopause. These issues become more important as she starts to venture out in the dating world after her marriage ends.
Having limited libido and being single really are an oxymoron. Suddenly, having a sex life may be not only a novelty but also very important to her partner. Women in their 40’s might start having hot flashes and mood swings.
There is medication available to balance out the hormonal agony that she might suffer. Doctors are actually now using small doses of testosterone, which is a male hormone, to give a woman over 40 more energy as well as increased sex drive.
Many single women over 40 are now empty nesters or nearly so . They can enjoy their time out as well as their time alone. They also will display more confidence in themselves which is a big turn on for men. Guys love a woman who has self confidence and knows what she wants. Do beware that this does scare some men, so be prepared to move to the next if that happens!!
Make living life and finding love after 40 the best adventure ever! You can live your dreams and make those of other’s come true too!!
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I have to disagree with much of your assessment of dating over 40. It sounds more appropriate for someone in their mid fifties. Most women with a college degree or higher don’t have their first child until age 29, so they’re often dealing with children that are in elementary school and middle school, when they’re in their 40’s. That is a big part of the complication since kids are a major consideration when a woman is trying to find time to date.
Thanks for the insight. I do know many women however that are in their mid forties that have children out of the house or in college. You are right that women with children have a much more difficult time balancing a personal life with work and responsibilities at home.
I am in my mid 40s and have been dating for about 6.5 years. Based on my dating experience, there is a large population of single/divorced women with children in the later years of high school or out of school. Most of these women I have met did not go to college after high school. My experience is also very representative of Tina B’s comments. Women in their 40s who went to college after high school (instead of marrying) still have younger children.
In fact, I am a single Father with younger children (ages 12 and 9) and I find that “matching child raising philosophies” is the most difficult part of establishing a long-term relationship. The two of you can be very compatible and attracted to each other; however, if you have different approaches to raising children it is a deal breaker.
I think that I was misunderstood. I simply said that many women have these things underway during their 20’s and 30’s and that when they reach their 40’s, many are starting to enjoy taking care of themselves and enjoying their singledom! I didn’t mean that every woman is a college graduate.
They say love over 40 is the best!!!
I agree because there is usually more experience, less financial restrictions etc.