When you breakup with someone that you are emotionally connected to, it can be devastating and be hard to let go of. It takes time to heal your heart and get a firm footing back. There is something that I strongly recommend under the following circumstances:

1.  You had a nasty breakup and he doesn’t want to talk to you anymore.

2. You feel that having communication with him is hurtful or make you feel like going back.

3. He calls you when he wants a booty call.

4. You find that to keep contact is too emotionally draining .

5. You just cannot let go and he doesn’t want you anymore.

There is a technique that I have used for over 4 years now to help me let go after breaking up  but never put a name to it.  Jane, the creator of the dating blog  Onedatewonderland.com really explains it well.

She calls  the coping mechanism DTM. It is about moving forward. The best way to achieve this if you are suffering from one or all of the above after a breakup. is to erase them from your database. Not only mentally, but from any possible portal that they can be visible.
This means erasing them from all text messages, emails, ims, phone contact list and photos.Depending upon the length of time you have spent with him, it may be time consuming. It is essential to remove possible reminders as well as temptations.

Be prepared for the possibility that he might try to enter your space again. Many times,  even if someone is not interested in really developing the relationship further or repairing the damage that is already done, he still might miss the attention that you gave him. Hearing from him again is not always a good or positive sign for you. If the relationship was toxic, don’t even go there again! Let him go!
Believe me, it works if you apply it and stick to it. Being recently broken up is usually painful but you can get through it with empowerment. Don’t let someone else determine your happiness.! That is difficult at times to do but imperative to having a healthy relationship going forward!

At the onset of a breakup, the idea of being free to do as you please and date other women holds some very pleasureable thoughts. Then, as  you get the reality check and realize that you don’t know how to get started with the process, it can be a daunting feeling.

When you are going through the process of a divorce or the breakup after a long term relationship, you might not have an understanding of the journey you are about to undertake. Yes, being single again becomes somewhat of a journey to the next part of your life.

Since many people are going through this without any guidance or ideas on what to do next, they will not have the tools you can find here on Successfuldatingpro.com to make this transitionary time an easier, less stressful and a more enlightening experience!

Before you even start dating, take a good look at yourself. I mean that in both a literal and non literal sense. Get in front of a full length mirror. Ask yourself this question: Would you date YOU? I honestly doubt that many of you would say ” yes” !

After that good look in the mirror,  you must decide what it is about you that is great and what needs working on. Be careful, we all tend to be our own worst critics and you want to avoid over criticism of yourself.  There are undoubtedly traits that women will find rather appealing.

If it is your clothing style, take a trip to Target, Ross or Steinmart and select a few pairs of pants and shirts to start. They don’t have to be the most expensive clothes, but should be somewhat stylish.  Check with a female that you know to advise you.

The next thing that might need a bit of a change is your hair. When you were married, you might not have paid much attention to how it looked. Go to a good barber or stylist and have a good haircut. Women notice hair!

Also, just some friendly advice that some men don’t get. Check out your shoes before you walk out the door to meet your date. We do not really like to see men in sandals except at the beach.  Men’s feet are not highly regarded by us women and are certainly not your most attractive feature. So, leave you sandals in the closet and wear a nice pair of casual shoes if it fits the occasion. Make sure they are not a 10 year old pair with scuff marks or your tennis shoes that you play softball in!

These few pointers will  provide you with a few advantages when trying to meet women. Dating after a breakup can be like rocket science if you don’ t have the tools to get you through it!

Stay with us at Successfudatingpro.com to get the latest tips on dating and meeting women! Stay tuned to Part 2 of Dating after a breakup!